When your loved one is ready for a change, acknowledge her strengths, anticipate problems and pitfalls to changing, and assist the woman in generating her own plan for obtaining a drug-free lifestyle. Problem solve with her things that might get in the way of her success and how she can overcome those barriers. Work on plans for referral to treatment (i.e., help her make an appointment and offer to drive her there).
Once your loved one has quit using drugs or alcohol, acknowledge her success and how she is helping her infant and herself; have her share how she has succeeded and how she is coping with the challenges of not using. Offer to be available for assistance if she feels that she wants to use drugs/alcohol again. Provide assistance with treatment referrals and support in continuing that treatment: Discuss triggers and social pressures that may lead to relapse, and help the woman plan for them. Understand during this time that your support and that of others around her are essential to her remaining sober. Also remember that you cannot do it all and professionals are there to help.
Often, people who have reached a point of recovery from their drug use relapse or get high again. Please remember that addiction is a chronic relapsing disease. If this happens, remain supportive and guide the woman toward identifying what steps she used to quit before. Offer hope and encouragement, allow the woman to explore the negative side of quitting and what she can do to deal with those issues. (How did she deal with those issues in the past? Explore what worked and what didn’t work for her.) Offer to provide assistance in finding resources to help her return to abstinence. If relapse occurs, call the Tennessee REDLINE at 1-800-889-9789.